I had an incident occur to me a few weeks ago. It was nothing too out of the ordinary, but it was one that the LORD used to open my eyes and show me an area I need to work on. It's the area of pride, and femininity. Let me share.
Our church had an Easter cantata practice, on a Saturday morning. Following practice, Justin (the man I'm in a courtship with) asked if I wanted to ride with him to our local Wal-Mart, so he could pick out a kite for another upcoming church activity. I said yes, and then we were off.
We got to Wal-Mart, he chose a kite, string, and then we walked around a few minutes. He asked if I needed to get anything, and I told him I needed to pick up some dog food. So we walked over to the pet section, and found what I needed.
Well, if you know dog food bags, you know they can come in some pretty heavy weight categories. Well, big and bad me grabs the bag and proceeds to haul all 20 pounds through the store. And the whole time, not giving my friend a second to be a gentlemen.
We walk down the pet food aisle, and head for the checkout. We get to the end of the aisle and my dear friend asks if he could carry the dog food for me. And then it hit me, pride in thinking I could do it myself, and the initial reaction to say "No thanks, I've got this".
Just as suddenly as that pride of wanting to do the work myself came, the guilt of realizing my first thought was wrong arrived.
I'll be the first to admit, I can be prideful in my ability to work hard. I can also tell you that pride gets me into trouble by working myself to the point of exhaustion, way too much. (Pride goeth before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall...) I've never liked to think of myself as weak in terms of strength. But being a woman, I am.
The LORD used that moment to show me I do have physical limitations as a woman. There is nothing wrong with that. That is how HE created me, as well as all other women. That's HIS plan for our lives.
HE also showed me how to encourage the men in my life to be servant leaders. Letting them demonstrate chivalry by offering to carry heavy items, opening doors, or anything else, is helping them to treat women with respect and even fulfil the command to show honor to the weaker vessel.
And guess what else I've seen first hand? By letting guys perform such acts of kindness, without the lady getting defensive, does help encourage them, and even make them feel more respected. Guys do want to help a lady. GOD created them to be protectors and leaders. Aiding a damsel in distress (or an idiot with a 20 pound burden...) does encourage them. And that is definitely a good thing.
So next time a guy shows chivalry in his actions, I will by the LORD's grace and help, put my pride aside and encourage my brothers in Christ to be the leaders GOD has made them to be. :)
So, what are you thoughts on the subject? I'd love to hear them! :D
Have a wonderfully blessed day! Thanks for stopping by!
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